Patra's Other Place

I started out with Patra's Place, primarily dedicated to my linen collection and stitching projects. But I kept getting side-tracked, so I decided to create Patra's Other Place for anything not related to embroidery topics. So you now have a choice. If you are interested in me, read this. If you only want to see my linen and stitching, visit Patra's (original) Place! (Please note that by clicking on any of the photos, they will be enlarged to fill your computer screen.)

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Location: Melbourne, Vic., Australia

I am married to Ken. We have no children except a cat and a collection of Australian parrots, finches, canaries and a dozen hens.

Friday, January 13, 2006

Some people choose to die, others have no choice.

Ever wonder why these suicide bombers have so little respect for life - theirs or others - that they can do what they do? They probably haven't experienced watching a close relative or friend dying of a terminal illness. Most of us don't have a choice about the way we are to die, and if we did, we would probably want to make it as quick and painless as possible. But not until we had lived long enough to fulfill our earthly dreams and desires.

This morning I received a phone call, telling me a close friend had died last night. The lady in question was the same age as me (57) but had lived a very different life. My health overall has been pretty good up until now, apart from one bad motor accident from which I recovered, and high blood pressure which is pretty standard for most people after about 50! But my friend Claire was diagnosed with diabetes early in life. Due to various errors on her doctor's part at the time, she eventually had to have a kidney transplant (16 years ago). In the following years, she had to have both legs amputated, due to complications with the diabetes. Not both at once - a few years in between each amputation. But none of this stopped her and her husband having three children, who are now all lovely young adults. She was involved in community activities as much as she could, and she enjoyed dining out, visiting friends, shopping, and entertaining friends.

Last night, she and her hubby had been out to dinner. Apparently when they got home she said she didn't feel well, so he put her in the car and drove to hospital, but she died on the way there. The only positive side of this is that she passed away quickly and quietly. If she had not gone like this, the chances are she may have lived for another year or more, while her body eventually rejected the transplant - a horrible way to die, but it was what she told me last year that she was expecting.

I mourn the loss of this very dear friend - a lady greatly loved and admired, who always showed courage in the face of her adversity. I will miss her company, her sense of humour, and our shared opinions of politics and politicians.
Vale Claire Stanley. January 12, 2006

8 Comments:

Blogger Sharon said...

G - I am so sorry... You have my deepest sympathies... Thinking of you at this time...S XXX

Friday, 13 January, 2006  
Blogger Crookedpaw said...

Deepest condolences.

Friday, 13 January, 2006  
Blogger Nicole said...

Dearest Gina, How sorry I am to hear of your loss of a dear friend. One thing is for sure...you have an angel to watch over you now. Bless you, Nicole.

Saturday, 14 January, 2006  
Blogger Medieval Lady said...

Gina,
I am sorry to hear about your friend. I wish her family comfort in their time of need. She's no longer in pain and I hope that offers you some comfort. I know it's never easy to lose a friendship. But I'm sure your friend is already singing your praises in heaven. HUGS. Patty

Sunday, 15 January, 2006  
Blogger Shell said...

Sorry to hear of your loss. She sounds like she was a wonderful, caring person who gave a lot to her friends and community. I hope those memories of her help you through your time of grief.

Wednesday, 18 January, 2006  
Blogger ms*robyn said...

sorry to read this, Gina. diabetes is an awful disease - many in my family suffer from it - big hugs to you x0x0

Monday, 23 January, 2006  
Blogger Maggie Ann said...

Dear Gina, you have my sincere sympathy...what a courageous lady indeed. It sounds like she lived life to the fullest in spite of adversity. How special she was, pausing just now to offer up a prayer for her husband...that he may look to God and find strength and comfort. May God comfort your heart also my friend.

Friday, 27 January, 2006  
Blogger Michelle said...

Just foudn your blog via mine. So sorry to hear of the loss of yor friend. I have been there too and know how cruel it is. Lots of love and hugs. Michelle.

Wednesday, 01 February, 2006  

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